Are Love Marriages Better?

Two people meet. Fall in love. Date awhile. Get Married. End of story. However, is that end a happy one? Will they live happily every after? What happens when the first flush of love fades away? Will life become boring? Let us try and understand if love marriages are indeed better than marriages that are arranged by parents or elders, as is common in most Asian countries.
Love marriages can indeed by more exciting, especially if you consider the hoop-la preceding the marriage. The affair, the dating, the romance it is all quite mindblowing and breathtaking. In fact, this excitement can be the reason why post-marriage couples tend to find life dull and boring. As they settle into domesticity and get involved with the business of life, romance and love tends to take a backseat. Bills and budget come to the forefront.
Moreover, in love marriages, partners may have more expectations from each other. They may not want to change their own habits and expect the other person to do so. This may also lead to friction and fights.
On the other hand, in a love marriage, since both the partners have known each other, they may also be more accepting and adjusting as compared to partners in an arranged marriage where the meeting of the bride and groom may have only been for a few minutes. Read more about arranged marriages in this article.
So, to conclude, both love and arranged marriages may have their advantages and potential pitfalls. What matters most is the maturity of the partners and the desire to make the marriage a rich and fulfilling affair.

Traditional

A lot of people want to have the traditional wedding, while a lot of other people want to have a very non-traditional wedding.  Which one is right for you and how can you tell which one you may like better?  The answer to that isn’t as easy as one might like it to be.  There could be many different traditions that you may like, while there may be none that you would actually want to use on your wedding day.  For example, I am planning on getting married in the very near future and I do not intend to wear a traditional wedding dress.  Depending on the type of wedding I have, I may not wear a white dress at all.  If I do happen to have a large wedding, I intend to wear whatever I want to wear to my wedding.  White is not one of my favorite colors, in fact it is far below every other color on my list of favorite colors, so why would I want to wear white on one of the most important days of my life?  One tradition I do like though is throwing the bouquet.  Like I said, there are many different traditions, so you are sure to find at least one you want to use!

Dress Sizes

So I went dress shopping the other day because I am getting married to my boyfriend soon and I wanted to see the available choices out there in my price range.  I discovered something incredibly annoying because I am actually about average when it comes to body size.  I am not the stick thin person everyone is always jealous of, but I am not the slightly chunky person that everyone is always waiting to gain a few pounds so she passes into the making fun of stage.  I am smack dab in the middle of the two.  My dress size, depending on the dress, is a size thirteen or so.  This being said, my dress size in wedding dress speak is about two to three sizes abouve that.  I hate that…the sales associate at the store told me the reason was because it is in European dress sizes and they were different than here in the United States.  That’s when I decided to just make my own dress, or where something that is not a traditional wedding dress.  I do not know which it would be yet.  I already have insecurities about my size, and then the wedding dresses had to throw this at me, too?!

Helping with the Budget

The first thing you have to do when planning your wedding is set your budget.  It is also one of the hardest things about a wedding to decide.  Unfortunately, that cannot be helped unless you just want to have the justice of the peace marry you and forget about any sort of fancy fairy tale wedding.  If a fairy tale wedding is what you have in mind, then it could be possible to cut a large portion of expenses regarding decorations if you do not have your heart set on certain colors.  If you already know what sort of decorations you want, than feel no need to read any farther into this post!  If your budget and saving money is more important to you than having your favorite colors used at your wedding, then you should continue reading.  My suggestion to those who want to save money on their special day is to find a church that will allow you to use their holiday decorations.  For instance, churches will decorate for Christmas and Easter.  If you dream of a fall wedding, some churches even decorate for a celebration called Harvest Home.  This is a big celebration of the Harvest and thanking God that the harvest was plentiful.

Marriages in Asian Countries

Marriages in many S-E Asian countries are very different from those in Western countries. While the partners do at times, fall in love and date one another, more often than not, they are brought together by parents and relatives. It is an informal form of matchmaking and a concept known as arranged marriages. Do read What Are Arranged Marriages to find out more. However, nothing is done without the assent of the candidates in question. There may be times, when the consent of a girl is overruled by the decisiion of her parents, however, in modern times, this occurence has reduced considerably.
Girls have become increasingly independent and earn a good living on their own. Parents have also realized that forcing a girl to get married is not always the best thing to do.
Many people find the concept of such marriages strange and contrived. However, if you think of it, it isn’t very different from the matchmaking balls and dances that we read about in Jane Austen novels. It may seem ancient, however, the system does have its advantages. Parents rely on experience and do enough research about a prospective bride or groom to ensure that their child will be happy. It also indicates a strength of family and social support for the bride and groom. Plus, the partners are more adaptable and open to each other and are willing to make the necessary adjustments as in any other marriage.
However, such fixed marriages may have some disadvantages, especially, where boys and girls are not given enough time to get to know each other. There may be fights, disagreements and personality clashes, after the marriage and lead to unpleasantness and even, separation.
So, while marriages in Asian countries may be some what different from marriages in Western countries, they do tend to be similar as well.

Wedding in INDIA

Hi i want to focus on the on wedding ceremonies in india.As we all know that indian families are very conservative and they follow certain traditions as well as cultures during the marriage.We in an indian wedding can see those rituals being followed.In india during marriage the caste system prevails and a boy or girl from the upper caste cannot marry a boy or girl from the lower caste he or she is only permitted to marry within his own caste.The parents of the boy first choose the girl for their son and the choice of the son is never taken into account.There is also a dowry system in which the daughters parents give some gifts usually gold,electronics to their daughters at the time of marriage which too is considered as a culture during marriage in india.In some cases if the dowry is not given or the dowry amount is less as demanded then the bride is mentally and physically tortured and in some extreme cases she is usually burnt to death.Another important ritual during marriage in india is the performance of yagna during marriage which is considered as very holy as it pleases the hindu gods and they offer blessings.The wedding party is also given two days after the wedding is over and all the guests have to stay to attend the party.So these are some of the rules which one follows during the wedding ceremony in india.But now a days some make love marriage or stay together without marriage.
THANK YOU.

Finding a Good Wedding Planner

Wedding is the most important moment in life of any couple. And it is but obvious that no one would want it to be a mess. A perfect wedding is something everyone would want to have. And that will be possible if you find out a good wedding planner.

If your wedding is on a smaller scale then there might not be too many things. But still, if you are not granted leave from your job just before your marriage, you won’t get much time for preparation. At such time, you would want to appoint a wedding planner who will set everything in a perfect way.

Wedding planner is quite common in case of high profile weddings. This is because, there are hundreds of things. A wedding planner arranges everything right from flowers to decoration. You may also expect help from wedding planner in case of invitation as well as shopping. You won’t have to be tensed. You can expect a perfect marriage if you have appointed a good wedding planner.

You can find a wedding planner by getting references from your relatives and friends. Internet is the best place to get all the required information. Search online too.

Wedding being the most important event, one can’t afford to take any chance.

Shoes

One of the most important thing for a bride to decide besides everything else is what shoes she is going to wear with her wedding dress.  The shoes actually depend on the type of dress she goes with on her wedding day.  Certain dresses call for certain shoes and other dresses have no set shoe, so that makes it even easier to decide on a shoe.  Many brides want to be as comfortable as they can make themselves on their wedding day.  This is a good thing, everything will seem a whole lot more nerve racking if you are not comfortable on your wedding day.  Not only that, but you will not be able to enjoy the day as much as you may have hoped.  If you are able to wear a longer, touching the floor kind of dress, you may want to consider wearing your favorite pair of sneakers to your wedding.  These will be comfortable and you won’t have to worry about breaking the shoes in or getting blisters from them.  Or, you may be a flip flops kind of gal.  If your dress is shorter, don’t go for the high heels, unless you are very used to standing in them all the time, otherwise you will be very uncomfortable.

Benefits of A Beach Wedding

The idea of a wedding on the beach is intriguing to many people. It has many benefits, though, too. I think one of the greatest benefits a beach wedding could have is how well it lends itself to not wearing shoes. The shoes that a bride chooses should be comfortable, but that is not always the case. Usually, she will choose shoes that look good with her dress, even if her dress is going to cover her footwear anyway. With a beach wedding, you do not have to wear shoes. You can just go barefoot if you want, which I think is one of the coolest perks about having a beach wedding. A beach wedding can be a fun a playful type of wedding rather than stuffy and elegant like many weddings that happen indoors. The wedding dress can be light and not as frilly or large as your typical indoor wedding dress. This can make it easier on the bride, too, because she won’t have to worry about getting her dress caught on something or needing people to carry the train down the aisle because there won’t be as much of a train. In fact, there probably won’t be any train at all since you won’t want to drag your dress in the sand.

A beach Wedding

A beach wedding may be worth it if you would like a beautiful setting for your special day. Or it may not be. With a beach wedding, there are many things to think about and take into consideration before you actually have the wedding and decide to have it on a beach. For example, few beaches have chairs set up for the people who will attend your wedding, so you’ll have to rent chairs and the alter and everything else that you want to have on your special day. Also, you’ll have to contend with the weather a lot more than if you had your ceremony inside or at a church. Beach weather can be extremely finicky, depending on the season. This must be taken into account before you decide on a beach wedding. You do not want to have your wedding on a beach that is in the middle of a hurricane season because it very well may get canceled the day before and this would be bad for you and for your guests! If a beach wedding is what you crave, than you should definately plan the wedding around the weather of the beach. It is worth it, though, if that is what you want.

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