Asking for gifts on the invitation

Parties can be awkward social occasions. How much the gift should cost, whether it’s OK to bring a friend… all these things must be considered before setting out to the event. One more awkward aspect of weddings is the gift for the bride and groom. There are many considerations for the happy couple as well; should they ask for a gift on their invitation, ask for cash or just leave it up to the guests? In my opinion, it’s rude to ask for anything. By asking for gifts, the bride and groom are:

a) Making the proceedings slightly tacky, and
b) Giving the impression that the guests won’t bring what the bride and groom would like if it was up to the guests without guidance.

I know that I would hate to receive a wedding invitation specifying what gift I should bring, especially if it’s expensive. That way, when the gift is not what was specified (due to pure cost reasons much of the time!), the bride and groom can get offended. It’s best just to leave the gifts aspect of the wedding day up to the guests, as asking for a particular gift or specifying an expensive price range can be rude.

The Gift Registry

So you are excited about your upcoming nuptials and you want to make sure that your day is perfect? You have the dress, the location, and even the groom. Now you want to decide on where you want to have your gift registry and what items you want on it.

This should be one of your biggest concerns because these are the items that are going to be with you and matter in your married life. Make sure to make a list of all the items you will need as a couple. Write down a list and organize it by the rooms in your home. For each room, write down the items you will need, the items you would like like, and the items you would like to replace.

Once you have created this list look for stores that may be able to provide everything on your list, like Target, Macys or Nordstroms. If you can, set up the registry’s online and email the links to all of your friends.

Planning for a grand wedding

Planning for a wedding should be perfect and well in advanced. We should be ready with all the necessary home work before the D-day. Right from the caterers and the musicians, everything should be well planned in advanced. The first thing that needs to be planned is the budget. We should keep 25% of the budget as extra than planned because wedding expenditures are never the same as per the plan. This way we can avoid last moment tensions. Next is the preparation of the guests list. We should not unnecessarily invite the whole world we know. It is better to invite selective guests. The invitations should be posted well in advanced before the wedding. All the necessary shopping should be done well in advance. Pending works may lead to lot of confusions and incomplete works. We can plan for many interesting games, dances, entertainment during the wedding according to the budget and by also considering the interests of both the parties.

The Wedding is a Day, Not a Lifetime

I had the perfect dress for my wedding. It was two piece corset tied top with a beaded mermaid bottom and a slight train. It was elegant and spoke volumes about who I am.

My wedding day was amazing. It really was. Relatives and friends came from the Caribbean and Europe as well as all over the states for my special day.

I never was so caught up in my beautiful wedding day that I was stressed and unhappy. I have been told that I was the most relaxed bride…ever. I probably was because I left the details to other people and trusted they would get it right.

The time that others spend being stressed and unhappy in preparation for their marriage, I spent loving and caring for my fiance. We talked and laughed. We enjoyed each other. I am so glad we did.

You see your wedding day is just that. A day. Your marriage is supposed to last a life time. I believe that some of the failed marriages that come so quickly after the wedding day comes in part from the neglect relationships receive before the wedding day.
I, personally, am glad that we focused on each other more than our special day. Don’t get me wrong, we reminisce fondly about once a week about our wedding. And we have been married for three years.
I am glad we focused on each other because the strength of our relationship has held us through the loss of a child, financial difficulties, when my husband moved from Europe and the states, and other potentially marriage breaking situations.

While I know this is not the only factor that has contributed to our marriage working, I know that I am glad that I focused on our LIFETIME together. It is, after all, what is most important.

Reflect on yourself

Saying “I Do” nowadays seems too easy to both parties. This may be the reason why the percentage of broken marriages rise up. In other countries where divorce is legal, there no problem in filing nullity of marriage but in some Asian countries it’s not as simple as ABC. Actually, couples need to spend not just money but also lots of time attending court hearing just to have an annulment. Aside from that couple also suffers emotionally during the break-up of the marriage. This is what the marriage councilors want to avoid and that is why couple needs to attend some marriage counseling courses just to be sure they are really ready for a more serious relationship and it might be their lifetime commitment too. Actually there are some books also that says when you are ready or not to tie the knot but the answer will really depends on ourselves and no one can say if we are ready or not rather than our own. So it’s advisable to reflect on yourself before saying “I do.”

Vital Factor in Tying the Knot

Tying the knot may bring joy to couple if they are prepared or took enough time in considering their decisions, aside from they really love each other.
It is indeed a true adage that getting married is an uncertain venture or a gamble. I know some people dear to me who have proven this saying. Both got married with someone who they met only in writing. The first one took months to know each other via sending mails (email is not popular during that time, not even text). Honestly, she’s not getting any younger then, that probably petrified her to take the risk of deciding to settle with someone whom she did not meet in person even once. They just exchange mails and pictures. After couple of years, they thought that they knew each other well that could be enough as good foundation of their relationship. So after some deliberations on the planned occasion, the guy came home for the wedding vow. And that was the first time they met finally in person. After that wedding, the guy went back to his job overseas, but came home after a year and stay for good. They were also blessed with siblings. But since they have all the time together, that caused to unveil all the incompatibilities between them, the girl gone through many struggles just to save their marriage saying for the sake of their kids. For the belief that she doesn’t want to have a broken family, she endure all the sufferings caused by marrying a guy who she doesn’t know well.
The other one had almost the same experiences that had happened to the first one. The only good thing these people have in common is the values of endurance for saving their marriage for averting of broken families. Such situation is an eye opener that before you decide to tie the knot, always considers vital factors to avoid conflicts for it will be more difficult to untie the knot in the future.

The Perfect Dress for Mom

Since my daughter will be getting married next January, I have been all over the internet for the perfect Mother-of-the-Bride dress. I do not want the typical Mother dress. I want something simple but gorgeous. I want the color to blend with the wedding party but not exactly match bridesmaids. After all, I am the mother. I read somewhere that the mother should look royal. I am not so sure I rate a regal look. Just want to stand out a little. My husband suggested I wear the dress I wore as Matron of Honor in my best friend’s wedding. Yea, right. I do not think so.

So far, I have found a few that I like but either the colors will clash with the wedding party or I am not sure the look is right.

I am sure I will find the perfect dress. I just wish it was not taking so long.

A great gift

I am always looking for an elegant gift that the bride and groom will both love. I came up with this idea for a coffee basket that is great. First off you will need a medium sized basket. To the basket add some tissue paper in a coordinating color. Then add two coffee cups. After that I add some coffees and teas. I like adding a variety such as the flavored ones. I also add a bottle or two of flavored creamers that do not need refrigerated. Then I add a few stirring sticks that I have made using plactic spoons and some chocolate. I wrap it up in celophane and place a bow on it. Coffee has never looked so good. The bride and groom will be sure to love this gift and will think of you every time they have a cup of coffee. And the other guests will really think that you went to lots of trouble when it was so easy to make.

It’s Just a Day

Women have been inundated with images of a stunning bride sauntering down an aisle smothered in flowers galore. We, as women, are programmed to crave a gigantic, romantic wedding. We want everything to be perfect, and often times, we’ll pay any amount of money to achieve that perfection. Take it from a married woman, ladies. It’s just a day. Yes, it’s your wedding day, and yes, you’ve dreamed about it your whole life, but the truth remains. It’s one day in what we all hope will be a long and happy life. When you stress yourself out about having nearly “perfect” details, then you will be so anxious on your wedding day that you won’t enjoy it at all. Nearly all married couples I’ve met have said that they wished they hadn’t spent so much money on the wedding. I’ve heard it a million times. “After all, it was just a day.” So take some advice from a married woman who’s not selling you a gown or some party favors. Don’t over extend yourself, and remember, character is derived from imperfection.

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