Give ample breathing space to your partner!
July 27, 2009
Of the many things that come along with closeness, the one thing that really becomes a concern is possessiveness. One of the great irony attached with our lives is the fact that whoever we love the most, we also try to control their lives in some way or the other. This sometimes can lead to the other person being left with too little a space to even breathe properly. And that is when the problem starts, when the other person starts feeling irritated and subsequently starts drifting away as well.
It is very important to understand this fact that the true beauty of a relationship actually lies in giving complete freedom to your partner, and not suffocating him for even a proper breathing space. Trust is the main foundation of this relationship, and it can only be developed by laying complete faith in your partner. There is just no need to breach the personal space of a person or getting too inquisitive about his/her routine every hour. The very fact that the other person has willingly chosen to be your partner, must be reason enough to get along, without worrying too much about the past or what he/she does, when you are not around.
Look for love at hind sight, not first sight.
July 25, 2009
Looks can be deceiving at first sight; and there is every chance that you might find a different persona altogether when you get close. So don’t just go by the first sight; get close to the person and reflect about him/her in hind sight. Remember the age old saying, “Beauty is a nine days wonder” ? A person’s physical charm will only attract you in the beginning; but once you get used to it, you will start seeking inner qualities and traits to satisfy your emotional and mental appetite.
So guys, go slow and steady. And try to not jump into a conclusion unless you have seen the entire picture from inside-out. Although, some might think that I am suggesting getting into a non-committal relationship; but it is always wise to keep your options open, until you are absolutely sure about your partner, isn’t it? I would rather suggest you to be practical instead of suffering from a major heart-break.
Sexual Chemistry is very important!
July 25, 2009
For a married relationship to last through the seasons, it is important that both the partners should have a good sexual chemistry between them. Although, it does not undermine the importance of other factors in a relationship. The emotional connect with your partner and the intellectual vibes are also as important as the physical angle in making a relationship more satisfying and complete.
But the reason why I have emphasized on the physical angle is the fact that emotional and intellectual fulfillments could also be had from other relationships, but when it comes to a husband and wife relationship, the physical angle holds the first spark that ignites other emotions to automatically warm up. And in the absence of this quintessential spark between you and your partner, the partners attraction towards each other might start to wane with the passage of time; thus resulting in the sad end of a beautiful relationship.
Don’t rush into a commitment!
July 24, 2009
Don’t go by the old saying; “Marriages are made in heaven”. The truth of the matter is that marriages are made right here at planet earth, and can only be turned into a heavenly experience by putting in lot of sincere efforts by both the partners. You might be having a serious relationship with your partner, and you might even be going pretty steady in your relationship for a long time now, but deciding upon marriage is altogether a different proposition.
It requires taking stock of the hard realities that you and your partner will be living at that moment. It requires planning your future, assessing your social obligations, your financial security, your would be offspring. It would actually require setting a fine balance between your realities and dreams. So whatever be the status of your present relationship, it is imperative that you do take stock of the ground realities before getting into a life-long commitment with your partner.
tie the knot
July 22, 2009
Meaning
Get married.
Origin
There is a suggestion that this expression derives from the nets of knotted string which supported beds prior to the introduction of metal-sprung bedframes. The theory goes that, in order to make a marriage bed, you needed to ‘tie the knot’. Like many such folk-etymological explanations, there’s not a shred of evidence to support this idea.
It isn’t clear whether this expression derives from an actual knot used in marriage ceremonies or whether the knot is merely symbolic of a lasting unity. Knots have a place in the folklore of many cultures and usually symbolize unbreakable pledges. Actual knots have certainly been used in marriage ceremonies for some time and the tradition of trying the wrists of the bride and groom with twine continues today in marriages in the use of sashes which are placed over the principal’s wrists. The word ‘knot’, although not in the phrase ‘tie the knot’, has been associated with marriage since at least the 13th century. The Legend of St. Katherine, circa 1225 used the Middle English ‘cnotte’, i.e. ‘knot’, to mean ‘the tie or bond of wedlock; the marriage or wedding knot’:
“Swa ye cnotte is icnut bituhhen unc tweien.”
E. and M. A. Radford’s The Encyclopedia of Superstitions has it that:
“In the seventeenth century, one or two of the bride-favours were always blue. These were knots of coloured ribbons loosely stitched on to the wedding gown, which were plucked off by the guests at the wedding feast, and worn as luck-bringers in the young men’s hats.”
The expression was recorded in 1717 by the English poet and diplomat, Matthew Prior. In his humourous poem, Alma; or, The Progress of the Mind he includes:
“So to the priest their case they tell: He ties the knot.”
Francis Grose, in his 1811 edition of The Dictionary of the Vulgar Tongue listed the ‘knot tied with the tongue’ with specific reference to marriage.
“He has tied a knot with his tongue, that he cannot untie with his teeth: i.e. he is married.”
A Marriage of west vs. a marriage of east
July 21, 2009
Why do we marry? To find an outlet for our physical and emotional needs. Or we marry to produce off springs that will carry our surnames forward. Any which way one might look at it, but the fact remains that marriage is indeed a very important event in am individual’s life. And since there is lot of social acceptance attached to it; people normally try to keep their marriage intact.
In western countries, marriage is mostly an individual phenomenon, where 2 individual’s tie the knot and take vows to carry their journey forward hand-in-hand. While in east, marriages are more of a family phenomenon, where the entire families from the girl’s and boy’s side become involved in a relationship building process. The outcome therefore is a more strong social and emotional bonding that is not easily broken by the girl and the boy. Probably that is why, marriages in east have a higher survival rate than the marriages in west.
Fariy Tale Wedding On A Shoestring
July 10, 2009
My youngest daughter got married last August. She was 29 years old and had been planning her wedding in her mind since she was 6. Money was tight, but I wanted to give her the nicest day, one she would look back to fondly.
We decided to have a wedding outdoors, at the reception hall. It was a beautiful day weather wise, so everything went well. After the actual ceremony the whole wedding party walked across the field, and took pictures in front of the lake and in the gazebo. The bulk of the pictures were taken before the wedding, so the bride and groom and wedding party walked right into the reception minutes after the ceremony. The guests really appreciated this, and it gave more time to eat and celebrate.
She and her fience took one dancing lesson the week before the wedding and looked like a prince an princess on the dance floor. I would strongly recommend this, everyone was impressed and said how nice they looked.
I feel the most important aspect of the reception is the music, we did not scrimp on this. We had the best DJ, he played exactly what she wanted, and kept things moving smoothly. We met with him twice before the wedding.
We had the meal, with the soup and salad first. We could not afford an open bar, but a bottle of wine was placed on every table. The cake was not only pretty, but delicious. People noticed. I would suggest tasting the cake before you order it, we did and it was a fun day. The favors were ordered with the cake, and they were delicious chocolates. No fuss no muss.
Lastly her dress was exquisite. The important thing there is not how it looks on the hangor, but how it fits. This one fit like a glove. We spent a little more than we wanted on the dress, but it almost brought tears to my eyes when I saw her in it.
Well it is almost a year now, her husband and she are very happy. Hopefully I will be planning a baby shower next year at this time. By the way we did it all for under $7000.00, but it was a fariy tale wedding.
Ceremony Sign
July 10, 2009
What a fun, laid-back wedding this must have been!
Via Geese Aplenty..
wedding theme
July 5, 2009
These days, more and more couples were having a wedding theme for their special day. Most often their wedding theme depends on their chosen wedding motif.
Having a wedding theme does really give the guest idea about the couples, their characters or how they’ve met to be specific. Most people say that having a fairy tale theme on a wedding does say, couples were romantic and met each other like a fairytale story. While having a Victorian theme emphasizes glamour. Though there some who went out like having a Beatles theme!
Actually, wedding theme still depends on how couples want their wedding to be. It only shows that more and more couples want to have a different kind of wedding than the usual wedding we often saw. Just make sure that if you plan to have a wedding theme it will be your dream wedding so that it will not just be a cherry on your cake.
Toilet Paper Wedding Dresses
July 4, 2009
Toilet paper, tape, and/or glue. Take these simple materials and make a stunning wedding dress. These are the instructions for the annual Toilet Paper Wedding Dress Contest sponsored by Ripley’s Believe It Or Not.
Well, this is one way to save money on a wedding dress!
