Are you ready for Marriage?

Most of us dreams of marriage, of walking down the aisle and meeting the love of your life; of celebrating with family and friends; of building a home and sharing a life. But it is not easy to find that right person - that somebody you’re willing to spend the rest of your life with. Neither it is easy to decide if you are really ready for committing yourself to somebody else.

A friend will be getting married soon and she had confided some deep thoughts to me. I would like to share with you some sensible things we have shared.

Are you really ready for marriage?

Marriage is for two persons who want to share a single life. It does not mean that one will be subordinate to the other or one will dominate his/her partner. It is not about who will provide and who will give way. Marriage is a partnership, and partners grow together towards the attainment of a single goal. For married couples, that single goal is building a home.

If two souls have found in each other the comfort of home, then they may be ready for marriage. But that is not the end yet. Marriage is lifelong. Building a home is lifelong.

But what is a home? Home is where your heart is. Cliche as it may sound but that line is true and correct. Your heart lives inside the person you love. When love lives in each other’s lives, love will grow into a house of love called home.

Marriage means being partners for life, and it entails maintaining their home as long as they live.

I wish my friend a happy marriage, a fulfilling love, and a loving home.

Olympic Brides

The big day is here for the Beijing Olympics! And it’s another kind of big day for wedding couples like this:

A couple shows off their marriage certificate in Beijing August 8, 2008. At least 16,400 couples in Beijing, and thousands more nation-wide, chose the auspicious combination of the eighth day of the eighth month, 2008 to get married.

All the best to Olympic brides and grooms!

Via Getting married on triple eights

Guests

On the day itself, you are both busy and excited and jittery so if you can’t affrod a wedding planner, it is best to do all the preprations beforehand. You should be conscious of your guests. Where are they from? Do they have to travel far? Are they hungry already? Are they tired? There are so many things to consider.
I think first you have to put yourself in the position of your guests. Be sure that they are well rested, hydrated and fed. The food must be served promptyly (that is not beyond the normal eating time, if its lunch, serve it not later than 11:30). Give them enough time to eat and relish the food. The food should be served in an orderly manner, believe me i have attended a wedding where the guests have to line up and ran just to be served (buffet style but limited buffet tables). Limit the alcoholic drinks unless you are sure that all your guests can control themselves when drunk. Keep your guests entertained. Organize seating arrangement. You should know who will sit with whom. Your guests should be comfortable. Make sure that the venue is well-ventilated, the food is abundant, the venue is big enough and that the arrangement is good. Also be wary of who will sit in the presidential table. If you can’t accomodate all your sponsors, then limit the number of seats in the presidential table. It is not good for those who will not be able to sit there. I think having only the immdeiate family there is acceptable. Guests really tell and they tell all.

WarCraft and Weddings

Mixing two things I love — World of WarCraft and wedding gossip.

Scep told me that our highschool friend Garan got engaged a few days ago! Garan’s living in Korea (it’s amazing how many of our old friends moved to Asia), so I immediately emailed him to get the details.

Meg to Garan: I heard a rumor about you. Is it true!?!?!?
Garan to Meg: Yeah, I’m getting married. And I’m playing WoW again… Snidsworth, Alliance NElf Druid, Bwahahaha!
Meg to Garan: Yay! No serious gamers ever play Alliance! SCORE ONE FOR THE GOOD GUYS! What are your profs? Level? I’m a dwarf/war on Malorne, and –
Wait, don’t think you can get me off topic that easily. How did you propose? When’s the wedding?

Via Simpson’s Paradox — WarCraft and Weddings

Coins and Arrays

It’s very hard to plan a wedding today because you need a lot of things to learn. You have to organize different themes in the wedding and also the people involved in the wedding. They say that it’s just a one-day affair but you have to prepare it for at least half a year. The schedules of the entourage also is important because you have to tell them early the date and the venue so they can block the date for their organizer.
The flowers, cakes, invitations are quite expensive nowadays so a lot of us think of budgeting them and sometimes they ask it as a gift. Just like we did for our wedding. If you are close to the person, you can tell them straight that if it’s ok for them to give the flowers or cakes as a gift for you. By this, your expenses for the wedding will be lessen and the gifts that they usually give like the rice cooker, washing machine will not be doubled.
We should think of things that will make our wedding a meaningful one but less expensive. Don’t feel ashamed if you ask for this things because you are just being wise.

Seven Secrets from Wedaholic

Wedaholic.com has the 7 secrets to choosing wedding shoes! She says:

Wedding shoes have been important to the complete bridal ensemble ever since Prince Charming slid the glass slipper onto Sleeping Beauty’s delicate foot. The range of shoes bride-to-be’s can select from include jeweled heels, funky flip-flops, leather boots or even the proverbial glass slippers with kitten heels! With so many glamorous glitzy shoes on the market it is quite a dilemma for a modern bride-to-be to choose the shoes which will grace her feet on her special day!

She goes into a lot of detail, about considering your dress, venue and groom’s height when choosing a shoe. Personally, I would have to pick comfort over any style. Yes, I know it’s important to look good, but I don’t want to have a blister on my big day!

Via Wedaholic.com

Rough Times For thie Bridesmaid!

It’s rough situation for those of us with “starter jobs” when our more financially successful friends get married. A one-wear-only dress, matching heels and jewelry, shower gift, bachelorette plans, and the hotel stay really add up!

I’ve been this situation before (But fortunately the bride-to-be helped me out with the cost of the dress). Over at Fashion and Grammar Gripes, a bridesmaid had to raise a couple thousand for a bud’s destination wedding:

I’ve figured out that I need to raise somewhere between $1,500 and $2,000 by December for my friend’s wedding, which will be impossible if I don’t get a full-time job soon.

Stressed? Yes, although I have to say, that’s a pretty ugly word. And it’s really over-used these days. Still. I’m not really upset about the situation — it will be a wonderful time and they have decided on this crazy-luxurious resort in Jamaica — a seven-room villa with its own personal butler, chef and housekeeper, not to mention a private pool and two golf carts! Like I need a golf cart, but still … I read somewhere that Queen Elizabeth once stayed in this resort.

My friend is paying for my room, but I still have to pay airfare and for this meal plan that will last for the three days I am there. Oh, did I mention that the resort also has a few miles of private beach?

A bit pricy, but it’ll be a great vacation with friends!

Via Fashion and Grammar Gripes

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