Does it always to be “I DO?”
July 11, 2008
It was always a question on my mind, do we really need to say “i do” always on wedding ceremonies? If you are the bride or groom and you are asked by the priest or the minister will the answer must be always “i do”? Can’t we say other words? Nor can we say “no”.
Though I haven’t experience to witness in a wedding that the bride nor groom says “no” when they were asked. But what if they say no? Most of the people inside the ceremony hall will be puzzled or surprised by that I know. But do they really mean thier ” I Do’s?” Or maybe they weren’t unsure of the answer instead they say i do.
Many of the marriage were being ended to divorce or annulment nowadays due to the fact that most of the couples were not sure of what to answer. Or some may knew what to answer but they are afraid to say it aloud so they ended tied with the person they don’t want to marry.
We must accept the fact that not all marriage happens because the couple want it to happen but there are also ties that the marriage happens for some reasons which are hard to explain. So what will be your reaction if your soon to be wife or husband says “no” when he/she ask “Do you accept this man/woman as your lawful wife/husband?”
Are you married?
July 10, 2008
At an age when you’ve got your dream career, income is stable, bone structures become bigger, easy to gain weight, conscious to wrinkles… people always tend to look at your marital status. “Are you still single?” with a follow-up question “Why?” And all you have to do is simply smile and answer “I am not ready yet”. And then the topic will be changed, finally. When will they ever gonna drop this question?
In this modern time, a majority of 20-something women still don’t want to get married. They get to be more attached to careers and enjoyment of their single, independent life. Now, the question is… should women get married? At this moment, I would have to say NO. I love my life right now, and I am not yet through with it. I pity my friends who already have a family of their own and don’t have much time for themselves. But then, at the back of my mind it says I should be married sooner or later too.
I realized you should share your life with another person who has flaws just like you. It is hard and not for the faint of heart, the selfish or the fickle. As you get older, he’s always there beside you through thick and thin, guide you and inspire you. However, you have to be responsible and reciprocative of his love. No problem as long as the person is the person you have a connection, the one you can say you want to spend the rest of your life with.
Bride To Be?
July 10, 2008
Oh, the in-between stage for brides and brides-to-be! Simpson’s Paradox sums it up, with her usual expat twist.
There is much more of an expat community here in Beijing than there was in Yantai, but I find myself in a weird no-man’s-land between looking for the best meet-market bar with the cheapest beer, and looking for the best preschool. I suppose I’d reach this stage of life anywhere, but China brings this, like everything else, into sharper focus.
The day I say “I Do”
July 10, 2008
It was the last Saturday of November and we heard from the news that there is an upcoming typhoon. How hard I pray that time for having a sunny day. I don’t have problems with our reception because it’s covered but it’s at the front of Manila Bay.
It was a blessing! God hears my prayers! We have our vows in a bright sunny morning. It’s like God is in our side. I’m grateful and happy with this gift. The gift of His love and my husband that i will truly treasure forever.
Exchanging our vows and giving each others a ring strikes me most.This day is unforgettable. I feel touched by the persons who loved me. A promise that I will always keep for life.
Bridezillas
July 9, 2008
Pretty Mir of Woulda Could Shoulda talks about the TV show Bridezillas.
Our first bride explains that she IS a princess and she will be treated as such. Her wedding day is ALL ABOUT HER and it’s her way or the highway.
“Highway, please!” said Kira.
“How do you suppose they GET these women, I mean find them, and then get their consent to be taped? I mean, do you think they tell them that they’re from a show called BRIDEZILLAS or do they say they’re making a documentary about weddings or what?” I asked her.
“I think,” said Kira, holding up a finger for emphasis, and putting on a very serious face indeed, “That they call them up and tell them that they are making a show about PRETTY PRETTY PRINCESSES and that they heard that SHE was the PRETTIEST PRINCESS OF THEM ALL. And then it goes from there.”
Read the rest here. You won’t regret it!
How much is marriage valued?
July 9, 2008
Can we really tell how soon is the time to get married? I guess it depends on the situation. Most marriages in this time is based on having impregnated. I have seen several marriages as young as 18.
How much of marriage is valued today? Generally, it is difficult to define marriages. There could be several reasons such as:
1) girl got pregnant - majority of cases fall on this reason. they want to save reputation and dignity
2) agreement with parents - affluent families prefer their children to wed same kind to preserve wealth and public status
3) wealth - some would go for financial reasons
4) threat / witchcraft - shotgun wedding anyone?
5) desperation - wanting so badly
These lists can go on and on. We may not know but many of us may have been through these reasons. Sometimes we forget to value what marriage is all about. It should about being personally happy and fulfilled in love. Before getting married, we should re-assess if love and true happiness is what matters.
Wedding Invitations
July 9, 2008
Stressing over wedding invitations and in-laws? Here’s a giggle from Bridezilla!
We can all be thankful this isn’t our invitation!
My View on Marriage
July 9, 2008
This is a view or opinion from someone who has been married for 2 years, so don’t take my opinion seriously. I often hear people say that you should not invest on your wedding day but on the day or days after the wedding. Marriage is a life long commitment and a responsibility of a lifetime. Everyday is a challenge. Everyday, upon waking up you have a person who expects to be loved and cherished, regardless of how you feel. Everyday you decide to love the person despite of and regardless of his or her imperfections. Everyday is a different feeling, it is like a roller coaster ride, it is like a box of chocolates with different flavors, you don’t know what you got before you take a bite (i think i got this from Forrest Gump).
But seriously, for those who are thinking of getting married, go ahead, take the plunge as I did. It is not easy, I am telling you, but it’s worth it. I love my life now, I love what everyday brings. I love that everyday is a decision and chance for me to love my husband. I love that everyday is different, because it gives excitement to my life. So I am ending this blog, who knows, tomorrow maybe I will write another one, but maybe not.
Something is ALWAYS going to go wrong!
July 8, 2008
Let’s face it…life is certainly not perfect. Even if you are making plans to walk down the aisle as the most gorgeous bride in the universe to marry the sweetest most loving man ever I am sorry; I got news for you…something is ALWAYS going to go wrong. I got engaged a year and a bit ago and throughout the planning I was so confident that nothing was going to wrong. Now mind you, being confident in seeing the glass half full is a great trait to have when getting married but still, something is going to go wrong. Everything was going great; all the plans fell through perfectly until the big day arrived. That was where things went haywire! Hair wasn’t done in time, got cover-up all over my husbands perfectly white suit (thank-goodness he was able to hide it with his collar!), faced the congregation in the church the wrong way and somehow lost the written speech for the end of the night (that was probably the worst part). But…regardless of how many things go wrong take into account how many things went right as well!
Heather
Worldwide Wedding Trends
July 8, 2008
Bridezilla talks about wild weddings around the world… a suitable followup to a crazy proposal, or a crazy courtship!
Where no Bridezilla has gone before…. Japan invites you to get married in space.
Back seat Bridezilla. It’s seven minutes to wedded heaven with Sweden’s new drive-in weddings.
Bridezillas ride bareback. Courtesy of India, U.S. citizens can now also enjoy the thrill of getting married via elephant escort-the 7,000 Minnie, described as a “grey asian diva.”
