To Say I Do or Not To Say I Do

To Say I Do or Not To Say I Do, that is the question! There are so many factors one should look at before getting married. A few things would be religion, finances, and family. I say a few things because it is so many more factors to look into but let’s focus on these three. There are so many people today getting married with out discussing religion. They know each other’s religion but they never discussed which religion their children will abide by and what religious locations such as Church would they be going to together or not. Also, a huge factor in marriage is finances. Is anyone in debt? Do you or your future spouse spend responsibly or irresponsibly and how will you handle that, separate bank accounts?

Family is also a huge deal. Do you want children or not, how many children do you want, what do you expect of them? Also disciplining the children, will you spank, do time outs, will you share the responsibility equally? There are so many people who complain that they are the main ones doing the disciplining and they wish they had more help from their spouse. Will you be a stay at home mom/dad, work from home, work outside of the home. So many times people plan one way but feelings sometimes change after the birth of a child. What will happen if your feelings change will you be supported or not? I don’t mean to overwhelm you if you are not married yet or if you are the one giving advice to a soon to be married couple. But these issues are better discussed before the fact rather than after. It gives the couple more time to make these vital decisions before marriage so they can focus on just being married.